I started masturbating when I was 5 yrs old. I had no religious church induced shame nor any parental induced shame over masturbation because I didn't even know that I was masturbating until my late teens. My parents never knew I masturbated. They didnt have sex/masturbation talks with me about what was right vs wrong, NOR did I hear much about
masturbation/sex at church. And even after I DID found out that what I was doing was masturbating, I thought it was healthy and that it caused no harm. I'd say to myself "Yea right, like touching myself is going to hurt myself or anyone else haha, that's so STUPID. Its helping me learn my body and practice for when I have sex. Those are good things! 👍"...
It wasn't until 7 yrs ago when I got sober that I started looking back and discovering that no matter how OK I thought masturbation was, it still in and of itself brought shame. And I never in a million years would have believed masturbation could have caused such negative horrible effects on my bodies ability to function properly.
Ive already wrote the post about what the LDS Church thinks about masturbation here, so now I'm gonna talk about the medical side of masturbation and how contrary to current popular belief, the studies actually show it is NOT healthy for the body, and masturbation DOES cause Sexual Dysfunction in both men and women.
First like always, let's look at some official definitions of Masturbation. You know, just for clarity. 😉
MASTURBATION -(***Note they use the word "usually" and not "always". Sexually stimulating oneself with, or without orgasm, is still masturbation.)
1. To stimulate yourself sexually. In other words, to have sex by yourself, with yourself.
2. Get sexual gratification through self-stimulation
3. Excitation of one's own or another's genital organs, usually to orgasm, by manual contact or means other than sexual intercourse."
4. Erotic stimulation especially of one's own genital organs commonly resulting in orgasm and achieved by manual or other bodily contact exclusive of sexual intercourse, by instrumental manipulation, ...or by various combinations of these agencies.
Covenant Eyes states,
"All Orgasms Are Not Created Equal : When sex educators claim masturbation in men is healthy, they are referring to research about ejaculation. One study from the Journal of the American Medical Association, says, when you look at the various studies on this subject, the results are quite mixed. Some show a positive correlation to reducing prostate cancer risks, some a negative correlation, some no correlation at all.
Conclusions from the research about ejaculation are mixed because researchers often assume all orgasms are created equal. They aren’t. Even the makeup of semen is different when you compare masturbation to vaginal intercourse.
Once researchers started differentiating between masturbation and vaginal intercourse, they noticed more consistent trends regarding health benefits. Compared to sexual intercourse, .....Dr. Brody says masturbation is actually associated with more symptoms of depression and more prostate abnormalities."
Dr. Norman Doidge, author of The Brain that Changes Itself, says there are two separate pleasure systems in our brains: one for exciting pleasure and another for satisfying pleasure. Masturbating to fantasies and especially pornography activates the exciting system, but leaves the satisfying system starved for “the real thing.”
The exciting system is fueled by the neurochemical dopamine. Dopamine focuses our attention, giving our brain a little feel-good reward, helping us become sexually aroused, gearing up for sex. The satisfying system involves actually having having sex—touching, kissing, caressing, and really connecting with someone—which provides a calming, fulfilling pleasure. The problem with masturbation is that the satisfying system is never activated.
The more one masturbates to porn, the more dopamine is released in the brain. Eventually dopamine receptors and signals fatigue, leaving the viewer wanting more but unable to reach a level of satisfaction. This desensitization in turn impacts the prefrontal cortex—the “executive control” center of the brain—causing what is calledhypofrontality. This means a loss of self-control and a propensity to addictive behavior." http://www.covenanteyes.com/2015/04/13/the-great-masturbation-hoax-is-not-masturbating-unhealthy-for-you/
"Brody & Kruger (2006) showed that the magnitude of prolactin increase following intercourse is 400% greater than that following masturbation. Kruger believes that prolactin increase is an objective neurohormonal measure of sexual satiety. Thus, intercourse was shown to be much more physiologically satisfying than masturbation."
Dr. Susan Spadt, a director of sexual medicine in Philadelphia who believes masturbation IS healthy and doesn't cause sexual dysfunction ADMITS "What can happen with either sex is you masturbate frequently and become used to a certain touch, whether it's vibration or your own hand." Because of this, she says, "You may become habituated to that sensation and find it more difficult to have an orgasm with your partner."
What's funny though is Dr Spadt claimed this "wasn't" sexual dysfunction. But if a person becomes habituated to the sensation of their hand and can't orgasm with their partner, by very definition that IS a Sexual Dysfunction!
SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION "Boadly defined as the inability to fully enjoy sexual intercourse.A dysfunction can be life-long and always present, acquired, situational, or generalized, occurring despite the situation." - Medical-Dictionary
"Persistent, recurrent problems with sexual response, desire, orgasm or pain — that distress you .." - Mayoclinic
"Sexual dysfunction name is given to a number of sexual disorders seen in a sexual-response cycle. Some include hypoactive sexual disorder, sexual aversion disorder, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, orgasmic disorders"-Psychologyonline .org
"The inability of a person to experience sexual arousal or to achieve sexual satisfaction under appropriate circumstances.." - Britannica
Yep. Sounds like sexual dysfunction to me!👍 Is it a coincidence that statistically 70% of women now masturbate, and oddly enough at the same time "..Roughly 70 percent of women rarely or never have orgasms with intercourse.", says sexologist Carol Queen.
Maybe it's just a crazy fluke?
Along with masturbation, Pornography can cause sexual dysfunction as well, and I find it interesting that many people who are against pornography, or who can agree that pornography causes erectile dysfunction, will still claim masturbation is totally fine as long as pornography isn't involved.
So for sake of argument lets say the act of masturbation by itself with zero pornography IS healthy. Ok? If pornography is bad and masturbation is healthy, then what about fantasy? Can someone masturbate without fantasizing in any way? Or do some adults really think we are to believe that when they masturbate they think of absolutely NOTHING??? (I can't even think of absolutely nothing if I tried, let alone when I used to act out 😁)
Yourbrainonporn. com states:
"Research on mental imagery indicates that fantasizing or imagining an experience activates many of the same neural circuits as performing it. In other words, fantasizing about pornography reinforces your addictive pathways.
When you’re addicted to something, your brain's dopamine goes all out of control. This is what causes the problems in the first place. So what happens? We decide to quit the pornography and masturbation. That’s a great start.
If you read the science literature you'll find that small amounts of dopamine are released just anticipating a stimulus (i.e., wanting a piece of chocolate cake, or in this case porn or sex).
Put it this way: If you quit smoking or alcohol would you spend all day staring at their containers? Probably not, because it creates temptation. It creates that same rush in our brain. You see? Once you quit pornography and masturbation, if you're still looking at regular women and imagining them in pornographic scenes, that’s not really quitting.
Fantasies can lead to relapsing. They can reinforce the screwed up neural circuitry that we're attempting to undo. Your brain doesn't make a distinction between imagery that comes from a computer screen or inside your own mind, so running Pornography like imagery through your brain is little different from watching pornography."
Lets let's think about what fantasy REALLY is. Fantasy doesn't solely have to be strictly about intercourse. As a kid I NEVER FANTASIZED ABOUT INTERCOURSE!!!
But I would fantasize about feeling loved. Sometimes the fantasy was only about holding hands, or hugging, or someone SAYING they loved me. And Sometimes it was just fantasizing about things I saw on TV or in movies but didn't quite understand. As a kid when I saw sexual scenes, some only of mild kissing, those women seemed so powerful. I wanted to be POWERFUL like them. And since everyone always falls in love with the woman in the movies, I wanted to be LOVED like were. I grew up thinking "sex/sexy/sexual attention = Love", so sometimes I only fantasized about BEING sexy.
Fantasy can be about a whole wide range of things!
There's a reason why God gave us the ability to orgasm: to help us literally BOND with our SPOUSE. If an adult is masturbating, even IF its possible for them to think of "nothing", they are still chemically wiring their brain to RESPOND to themselves. They are bonding with their hand. (Yippee, how exciting)
So although some might see my childhood fantasies as seemingly "innocent", nonetheless they were still fantasies, and I was programming my brain to bond with something that WASN'T REAL.
And since studies show orgasm by masturbation is actually different chemically than orgasm by sex, masturbation is sending signals to your brain saying "Yes this is good. Your bonding. This is love", it's actually chemically a LIE because masturbation doesn't give you the satisfying "love" chemicals that orgasm by intercourse with someone you love gives. Masturbation only tricks your brain into THINKING it does.
** (Note: In this article, I am NOT talking about small children who discovered masturbation without any outside influence, and I am NOT talking about someone who may have a medical condition that produces unintentional orgasms etc etc etc. Sometimes small young children innocently masturbate as a form of self soothing, and will often outgrow it, unless negative attention is brought to it)
A list of TONS of articles showing masturbation is unhealthy and causes problems
Can you masturbate without lusting?:
The great hoax
Changes caused by masturbation
Masturbation and prostate cancer risk
Article just about DHT , imbalanced levels of DHT cause hairloss. What's interesting is that masturbation causes imbalanced DHT.
Man's experience of hair loss from masturbation: http://www.godlikeproductions.com/forum1/message1758872/pg1
Interesting. Masturbating damages nervous system: http://www.herballove.com/case-studies/excessively-masturbating-does-damage-your-nervous-system
Ha love the persons comment at the very end:http://www.herballove.com/case-studies/effects-chronic-masturbation-young-age
Masturbation side effects
http://side-effects.owndoc.com/masturbation-side-effects.php (be careful, has one graphic small drawing)
Masturbation and negative side effects.
If we imagine ourselves involved in improper things, our thoughts may influence our heart’s inclination and perhaps even our future behavior. Dr. Maxwell Maltz underscores the connection between our thoughts and our body’s nervous system: “Experimental and clinical psychologists have proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an ‘actual’ experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail.”
The Higher Law
"In addition, for both boys and girls, engaging in masturbation was associated with a greater odds of engaging in sexual relations with a partner, compared to adolescents who did not masturbate. For boys, masturbation was linked to higher odds of engaging in oral sex and vaginal intercourse, while for girls it was linked to higher odds for oral sex, partnered masturbation, and both vaginal and anal intercourse."