Tuesday, February 25, 2014

When does snooping become wrong??



When does snooping become wrong? Where does the line get drawn between obsessively snooping or just trying to protect ourselves?

This is something that has been on my mind lately that I am seeking to gain more clarity on. Ive been reading a lot of articles, book, and blogs of other spouses of sex addicts, and when the spouse of the sex addict is trying to recover, heal and is going to counseling and 12 step meetings, I keep coming across a similar theme:



Snooping on your addict husband is BAD BAD BAD!!!

Saturday, February 1, 2014

Addiction, Agency, & Freedom

Do addicts have a choice? Or do they lose all agency and responsibility? Here's my personal thoughts.

You've often heard the phrase "He lost his agency", and the word agency is frequently used interchangeably to describe what we gave up and lost after son....but can someone technically lose their God given agency here in this earth?

This is where freedom comes in.

I believe it is our choice to USE our agency submit our freedom to sin.

In terms of addiction, if I take a sip of alcohol, 9.9 times out of 10 I will have no control of drinking more. Did I give away my agency for the drink? Technically no. Did I give up control and my freedom? Yes. If I give up control am I any less responsible for my decision? No.

Why? Because it was my choice to entertain the thought of drinking.